I am in a long‑distance marriage because of my job. Whenever we meet, I feel awkward and disconnected during intimacy. How do I handle this?

Being in a long‑distance marriage sounded romantic at first. Those airport hugs, counting down days till the next trip. But when we finally met after weeks apart, I was surprised by how awkward intimacy felt. It wasn’t about love; it was like my body and mind were on different timelines.

I ended up talking about it with a counsellor during an online session. She said it is common. When you are apart for so long, you build emotional closeness in your head, but physical closeness still needs time to catch up. Her advice was simple: slow down. Spend a day just talking, eating together, and walking around the city. Let the body ease into comfort instead of expecting the spark instantly.

She also suggested I look at ways to support my energy and mood naturally since travel left me exhausted. That is when I discovered Durex Elevate Performa Tablets for Women, made with Shatavari. After a few weeks of regular consumption, I did feel calmer and more present during our visits once I paired them with lifestyle changes.

What changed everything was realising intimacy didn’t have to be perfect right away. Once I stopped forcing it, closeness came back naturally.